While I always thought I’d get remarried and have my own children, sometimes life requires a Plan B. Mine was “If I can’t be a mom, I’m going to be a grandma!” Which to me meant being in a relationship with a man who already had children. Happily for me, Jeff has two! I decided to work with Bela because I wanted to shake things up and try something different than what I’d been doing. The most valuable things for me from the experience, in addition to the fabulous pictures, were the insights I got into how I was showing up on dates and some great ideas about how to telegraph my softer, sillier insides up front.