Sue & Glen's Story: Finding Love Again After Widowhood
Sue and Glen
A widow who had also survived multiple failed relationships, Sue finally accepted that she needed real guidance — not just better luck — to find lasting love again. In her own words: "As a recent widow and survivor of multiple failed relationships, I finally got that I had to change, that I could no longer fool myself that I was just picking the wrong men. I embarked on a year-long program of online relationship education, and through that I discovered Smart Dating Academy. When I felt ready to be in a relationship again, I called Bela and let her talk me into doing her coaching program."
"The homework was an extension of the work I'd been doing all year and helped me dig even deeper into my patterns. Meeting Bela and Lindsay in person was delightful, and I got extremely valuable advice, like 'get to know someone before rejecting them' and be especially open to men who aren't 'my type.' The best advice was to look for someone who made me happy — what a concept."
"Literally two days after putting my profile up on Match.com, I got a message from Glen, who definitely was not my type in terms of looks, interests, or ambitions. However, he made me laugh, and after each exchange or phone call, I found myself smiling uncontrollably. Being with him was really easy and fun, and he asked me very early on to marry him. I told him I wouldn't answer that question for at least a year."
"A year later, I found myself stalling, so I did some more soul-searching and realized I had succeeded in accepting him the way he was, but still didn't accept myself the way I was — bossy, controlling, perfectionistic. Glen is fine with me being like that, and now, instead of getting grumpy and defensive, I can just laugh at myself and ease up."
"We were married after a year and a half and are having a lovely life. By the way, I attribute finding 'Mr. Right' so quickly to the fact that I was truly ready — I had done all the work on myself and cleared out all the obstacles to success. Or maybe I was just lucky."