Sugar and Justin
WHAT?
So I started the process for one year! Super excited. Bela and Ilene were my coaches through the process, mainly Ilene. I first did my photo shoot, and got some of the best photos ever (but they’re super natural and me). But, truth be told, it was a SLOW start for me. I had TONS of internal demons – my divorce 9 years ago really did a number on my self-confidence, and I didn’t think that I would find anyone. Ilene helped me to realize that I friendzone everyone - so Ilene encouraged me to look at them as “friend plus” (lol)! Additionally, my stubbornness held me back; I live in the city in Chicago, and had very rigid rules (before SDA). I kept preferences at: 1 – 3 miles from my River North neighborhood, I never replied to just “hi” or one-liners, I didn’t want to “make the first move” and message men, and I definitely wasn’t “psychotically optimistic!”
DATING “FUN”-NEL
As you’ll learn by working with them, they will have you develop a dating funnel (that will come because they’ll do an AWESOME photo shoot of you and give you their amazing workbook to write the perfect profile). So, I started to get more hits than I had gotten in the past, and I had to get used to talking/video-dating/IRL dating several men at a time. Not easy, especially when you’ve been married, right? I kept a binder of all my Smart Dating Academy information and wrote in a journal to document my journey because I had to keep it “FUN” and light-hearted so I didn’t let the ‘rejection’ get to me. I even made a “game” with pictures of the men and asking my friends to guess a) who friend-zoned me, b) who showed up in a hoodie, c) who was SUPER DULL, d) took me on a great sushi date, immersive Van Gogh and then 3 days later went back to his ex-girlfriend.
JUSTIN & SUGAR
So, not only is he the lid to my pot, and a twin himself, but he and I both LOVE desserts, and we both don’t drink (I’m allergic and he doesn’t really like to drink unless it’s a pina colada or strawberry daiquiri). He LOVES Disney more than I do – and almost more than Spice does. He has met sooooo many of my friends – Purdue friends, downtown friends, Dance Jam ladies… Even my brother says he can “HANG” – I mean, the guy wore a Bridgerton costume for the Bridgerton Ball that he ordered himself without any help or encouragement from ME!! He LOVES animals – I have a 3-legged chinchilla that is my baby and 6 godchinchillas that I take care of when Spice and Ken are out of town
THE FUTURE
So, remember that profile photo of Justin with him flying a plane? Justin leaves for Dallas for 1 to possibly 3 years for pilot training. We aren’t sweating it because neither of us have any trust issues with each other, 1 year goes by soooo fast, I can work remotely so we have plans to visit, we’re in it TOGETHER, and we have Bela and Ilene to help us navigate if we need it!!!