Rachel Graham

Rachel Graham

Rachel came to Smart Dating Academy after a painful divorce, and being a single mom for six years. She did a lot of work on herself, but the thought of entering the dating world was scary (especially online dating, and putting herself out there)! She had been successful in every aspect of her life (a serial entrepreneur), and knew that having a plan would make all the difference.

We worked with Rachel to determine her High GHQ guy, teach her all the red flags that would come up during the process, how to pace her 'dating funnel' (all the options that she would have), took these amazing photos, wrote her profile, and coached her through the process. It took time (as all good things do), and she found her amazing "Fly Guy" -- he's a pilot, and they met on an online dating site. They took it slow and steady, and are wonderful partners to each other. She couldn't be happier.

To hear more, tune into the podcast episode Rachel did with Bela!

DRAMA TRIANGLE VS. EMPOWERMENT DYNAMIC

In the podcast episode, Rachel discussed the Karpman Drama Triangle and how our previous traumas keep us mired in the same old patterns and scripts, relationship after relationship. We can play the role of the victim, persecutor and rescuer all in the same day with the same person.

She teaches a better method called The Empowerment Dynamic from David Emerald, where we can switch from "Victim" to "Creator" (creating our solutions), from Persecutor to Challenger (instead of criticizing, we switch to be constructive), and from Rescuer to Coach (where instead of fixing we help support our loved ones to find their own solutions). This graphic shows the switch, and we hope you find this helpful!