Midori was comforted by having Bela and her team on her side to “market“ herself properly, authentically, and strategically on the dating apps. Immediately upon the launch of her Match.com profile in the fall of 2012, her inbox was flooded with a shower of winks and messages. A friend and coworker of hers also began working with Bela around the same time. They scheduled weekly lunch meetings to support each other and discuss their dating progress.
They both took Bela’s advice seriously, making sure they spread their wings wide to date as many people as possible at the same time before deciding to be exclusive to one person.
After many dates, Midore chose a man to be exclusive with. They were together for 3 to 4 months, but it didn’t work out for Midore as she saw some red flags.
When the relationship ended in early 2014, Midore felt a mild depression. She started doubting her ability to find that person to spend her life with. Bela suggested doing a profile make-over and starting fresh all over again. It was a clear YES for Midore. She went on another round of many dates and it took her a year until she met John.
There were another round of many dates all over again, and it took me a year before I met John. John has 2 sons and is a widower who had lost his wife 11 years prior. Their 1st date was in August 2015, and Midore was 30-min late, by accident, because she confused the time. John patiently waited for her and Midore felt comfortable with him right away.
As they were parting, he asked if she was interested in seeing him again. She invited him to join her to go on a hike with some of Midore’s friends and to her surprise, he agreed.
About 2 months into the relationship, John invited her to the house that his mother built on the Chesapeake Bay in Virginia, saying that it was a very important part of his life. She met his younger brother and John and Midore had a lovely time together. It took them 6 hours to drive from NYC and the long drives back and forth were a great way to get to know each. On the way back to NYC, they talked about being exclusive to each other moving forward.
That year, Thanksgiving Dinner was held at John’s apartment in Manhattan, and she met the rest of his family, including his two sons. They also spend Christmas together at the house on Chesapeake Bay.
