After my first serious relationship, where I met my ex at business school, I was 27 and it took me a while to get over it. I moved to Boston and had all the elements I wanted in life - my ideal / dream job, an amazing group of friends, an incredible apartment - except for a relationship. So, I started online dating - but found it extremely discouraging. Most of my friends were in serious relationships, getting engaged and planning weddings- and I could barely get a first date. I spent about 2.5 years on the apps, making what I thought was a meaningful effort - with no success. My friends would tell me, you're such a catch, you're smart, fun, and beautiful - you'll find someone, just give it time. But as time went on, I had trouble believing them. I kept thinking, what is wrong with me, why do i have such a hard time getting matches / messages / dates? At a certain point, I even asked my parents to help me find someone - being from a South Asian family, that felt like a normal way to meet someone. They set me up on several disastrous dates - it was always something like "he's a doctor, from a good family, but he lives in England" - not sure why they thought I would move halfway around the world to meet someone.