Nicky & Lucas's Story: Finding an Awesome Husband in Her 30s

 

Nicky and Lucas

A successful professional who'd tried matchmaking, speed dating, and nearly every dating app out there, Nicky approached her love life the same driven way she approached her career — until she learned that dating actually needed a different playbook. Nicky met Bela at a holiday party around 2010, when she was in her 20s; she was a colleague of Bela's husband, Andy, at the time. She was accomplished professionally but didn't have a lot of relationship experience, and she pursued dating the same way she pursued her work life.

Living in Chicago and Los Angeles in her 20s, she was very focused on her career, traveled a lot, and took advantage of everything city life had to offer. She tried different approaches — matchmaking, speed dating, How About We, and dating apps — but without much dating success. Then she had an epiphany that was work-related: "If I was doing something at work for 10 years and didn't get the results I wanted, I would really reevaluate and change my approach."

She enlisted help from Smart Dating Academy's date coaching at 34. Some of the major lessons she learned working with SDA were that she needed to build a dating funnel and approach dating differently than a business transaction — she needed to actually get to know people, not just screen dates based on profiles. She revamped her dating profile to really show her personality, which helped her get more interest, but also more qualified, good men reaching out.

One of these responses came from her now-husband, Lucas. When they first met, he immediately felt like home to Nicky, and she felt very comfortable with him. They shared the same sense of humor, and she knew he'd be a great husband and father. They became exclusive after five dates, and it was an easy yes for both of them. When Covid hit, they shifted to virtual dates and made it fun — their relationship survived Covid, and they knew this was meant to be.

Lucas proposed to Nicky during a romantic moment at home, and they celebrated their engagement on a trip to the Amalfi Coast in Italy shortly after. They got married in LA.

Listen to Nicky’s love story here for some inspiration and delight!

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