Episode 166: 3rd Time’s the Charm: How Shari Found Remarkable Love After Divorce
Episode 166: 3rd Time’s the Charm: How Shari Found Remarkable Love After Divorce
I’m so excited to share this week’s powerful story, featuring a journey of resilience, radical self-growth, and finding remarkable love later in life. In this unforgettable episode, you’ll meet our client Shari—a vibrant, creative powerhouse who, after divorce and two breakups with the same man, rewrote her love story at 64.
Yes, you read that right. Three chapters. One love. Two rounds with Smart Dating Academy. And a lot of healing in between.
Shari’s story is full of heart, humor, and deep wisdom about what it takes to truly attract the right partner—and how to recognize your person even when life throws curveballs (and maybe even a little divine intervention).
We talked about:
Life After Divorce & Starting Over:
After 24 years of marriage and being the first in her friend group to divorce, Shari felt completely untethered. Can you relate to that “lost at sea” feeling? She shares how she built a new life piece by piece, starting with getting back to work and rediscovering who she was outside of being a mom and wife.
Doing the Work—For Real:
Two breakups with Dave were the wake-up call she didn’t know she needed. Shari went all-in on self-growth: Smart Dating Academy, therapy/EMDR, dating with intention, and more! She dove into creativity and travel, realizing that independence is a muscle that needs to be exercised.
When He Came Back (Twice!):
Every chapter with Dave came with its own set of lessons. The first time was magical but emotionally stuck. The second was deep but still misaligned. The third? That’s where the transformation happened. For both of them. Dave realized his issues, and was now doing his work too.
What Made the Third Time Different:
The universe got involved (seriously—wait until you hear about all the serendipitous sightings), and this time, it was different. With honesty, clarity, and deep commitment to each other’s growth, they reunited—this time forever. No games. No guesswork. Just mutual respect, love, and a whole lot of laughter.
Relationship Lessons You’ll Take Away:
Why “the work” matters before and during a relationship
What it looks like when a man is truly ready and what he is willing to do
How to have the hard conversations without blowing things up
The importance of tone, timing, and knowing when to pause
Why traditional therapy is powerful—and why your partner should be doing it too
Shari’s story is a story for anyone who thinks it might be too late, or too hard, or that they’re too much. Her journey reminds us that healing is nonlinear, love can evolve, and when two people are truly growth-minded, the possibilities are… well, remarkable.
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