Are you Going to Marry Me?
One of my best friends from childhood was the 'head-turner.’ When we walked down the street or through a party as we got older, it was as if the ‘ocean of men parted’ to let her pass. Stares and smiles from men of all ages, and she was blissfully unaware of her physical beauty (which is one of the most lovable things about her).
When I got married, she was a bridesmaid in my wedding. The day of the wedding, her boyfriend of 18 months decided he couldn’t attend the wedding with her because he was invited to a pick-up soccer game that day (the wedding had been on the books for MONTHS). But, she kept dating him.
One year later, she was on the phone with me (she was living in Wisconsin) – and sobbing because he had become so inconsistent. He would appear & disappear. One minute he was nice, the next, incredibly mean. She was so spun around, she didn't know north from south. My 'Spidey-Sense' was in overdrive, as she told me more and more.
I told her, “Ask him one question. With no anger or sadness, just say, ‘Are you going to marry me?”
In a shocking turn of events, she asked him the question.
He looked at her for a solid five seconds, silently, and then uttered the word, “No, I'm not.” And he walked into the other room, and turned the TV on.
That weekend, we knew she needed help to get out of there. We drove a moving truck to her apartment and secretly packed her up to bring her back home to Chicago while she was at work. When she got home, she was shocked to see her three best friends with pizza, waiting for her in her empty apartment. We said, “It’s time to come home.” She cried, got in the car, and left that place and that guy, forever.
Flash forward to two years later, she met her future husband, who is the definition of High GHQ (Good Husband Qualities), and is one of the best guys I know.
Her dating mistakes? Her negative mental thoughts AND ignoring red flags. She continued to tell herself that she wouldn’t find anyone else, that she was too old to find love and this was the best she was going to get. And she ignored no less than ten massive red flags - keeping her in this mess for over two years.
I KNOW you can find love this summer, and am here for you. Message us if this story resonates - and we will send you some love. IG Live is on Thursday, and I can't wait.
Also, I hope to see you at the Sunday, July 12th webinar and Saturday, July 18th Love Lab workshop (see below as they're getting close to sold out)! :)
Love-
Bela